Keep Fear At Arm's Length: A Response to Terror at the Boston Marathon

As a young woman with an invincible independence, I have a history of worrying parents, friends and boyfriends who try to warn me against the daily dangers that lurk in our darkest fears.

"Don't get in cars with people you don't know."

"Don't walk down dangerous streets alone."

"Stay out of the bad neighborhoods."

"Don't put your cup down at a party."

"Don't take off by yourself, even just to go to the bathroom."

"If a cop pulls you over, make sure you're in a well-lit, populated area."

etc, etc, etc...

After today's horrific scene in Boston, many people are commenting that we have lost yet another simple freedom. We now have to consider the danger that lies for us at sporting events, holiday celebrations, pretty much anything that draws large crowds of people. That is why it's a big deal. The threat does not stop today or tomorrow. It's already out there and it will not be forgotten.

In addition to the concerns that surround today's demonstration of fear, there are reminders that this is no more important than the people who die everyday from countless acts of violence, terror, abuse and carelessness. I find no need to compare tragedy. The bigger idea here is that these events are starting to hit everyone at home. If you haven't been effected yet, you most likely will be the way things are going. We don't need more negativity. Save it for yourself. What we need is resilience and support to fight for our smallest freedoms.

For those who already avoid dangerous situations, sporting events or holidays may now be on that list.  9/11 ruined travel for those who fear the possibilities. We've increased security and decreased freedoms. We can't travel with shampoo larger than 3 oz. That's a very small issue, but it's aggravating. And that's how fear wins. Slowly creeping in on the way we do things.

I've accepted a ride from a stranger, I've walked alone down streets in notoriously dangerous neighborhoods, I've given cops the benefit of the doubt and trusted that they are there to help me, not hurt me. I'm not naive. I don't do it to prove anyone wrong. I am aware of danger. I'm more observant than most- annoyingly so. I know not everyone conducts themselves with good intentions, but I refuse to give up some of my most prized freedoms because hatred consumed someone else with a bad attitude.

And I'm already hearing:

"That's why it's better to live in a suburb and not in the city."

I will dismiss it as overprotective. I adore cities, especially Boston. I love concerts, holiday demonstrations, festivals and sporting events. I grew up at Fenway and I refuse to be deterred. These are my holy places and no amount of fear is going to keep me from gathering with those who share my passion to support a common cause in the name of a good time. Ever.

Be aware. Be observant. Stay free.